Last night I saw Tyler Perry’s “Why Did I Get Married?” and I walked out of there feeling restored & liberated. Mr. Perry has a way of bringing hope to the hopeless in all his movies and this one was no different. I’ll hold off on the spoilers but basically the movie was about the trials of marriage, what it means to truly love and be loved, how to overcome adversity and the strength that is needed to sustain a loving and healthy marriage; above all else the importance of keeping God first throughout it all.
As a young single black woman, there are times that I find myself fantasying about marriage and what it will be like but this movie provided a pragmatic example of the aspects of marriage that don’t make an appearance in my fantasies, which is a blessing because it was a reminder of how difficult and exhausting sustaining a marriage can be. It also forced me to reevaluate the way I handle matters concerning the men in my life right now and moving forward. I used to waste a lot of my time investing in men that don’t have the slightest clue about being selfless or putting their pride to the side for the ones they love. And anyone who has ever found themselves in a situation like that knows how frustrating that can be because after a while you find yourself having to tell a man how to treat you. There is a serious problem with that. When I think back on the efforts I’ve made over the years, I shake my head and laugh. I can understand providing guidance but when you find yourself pushing and shoving, with no positive, lasting results, it’s disconcerting. It also reminded me how important it is to choose wisely when deciding on who will be my lifelong partner. It is not a game. And I say this only because lately I've noticed that people toy with the seriousness of it, diminishing the value of what a marriage is supposed to be.
I’ve wasted a lot of time being resentful and bitter and yearning for something that I’m not even prepared for. Instead of being clouded by the man I don’t have, I plan to work on myself first and look forward to what God has in store for me. :)
This movie gets two thumbs up from me and I highly recommend everyone taking the time out to see it.
Congratulations to Tyler Perry for having the number one movie in the box office, grossing 21.5 million this weekend stomping out Michael Clayton starring George Clooney and Elizabeth: The Golden Age starring Cate Blanchett!
As a young single black woman, there are times that I find myself fantasying about marriage and what it will be like but this movie provided a pragmatic example of the aspects of marriage that don’t make an appearance in my fantasies, which is a blessing because it was a reminder of how difficult and exhausting sustaining a marriage can be. It also forced me to reevaluate the way I handle matters concerning the men in my life right now and moving forward. I used to waste a lot of my time investing in men that don’t have the slightest clue about being selfless or putting their pride to the side for the ones they love. And anyone who has ever found themselves in a situation like that knows how frustrating that can be because after a while you find yourself having to tell a man how to treat you. There is a serious problem with that. When I think back on the efforts I’ve made over the years, I shake my head and laugh. I can understand providing guidance but when you find yourself pushing and shoving, with no positive, lasting results, it’s disconcerting. It also reminded me how important it is to choose wisely when deciding on who will be my lifelong partner. It is not a game. And I say this only because lately I've noticed that people toy with the seriousness of it, diminishing the value of what a marriage is supposed to be.
I’ve wasted a lot of time being resentful and bitter and yearning for something that I’m not even prepared for. Instead of being clouded by the man I don’t have, I plan to work on myself first and look forward to what God has in store for me. :)
This movie gets two thumbs up from me and I highly recommend everyone taking the time out to see it.
Congratulations to Tyler Perry for having the number one movie in the box office, grossing 21.5 million this weekend stomping out Michael Clayton starring George Clooney and Elizabeth: The Golden Age starring Cate Blanchett!
1 comment:
Sis,
Thanks for your wonderful review. I didn't want to go see this film because I thought it was another Hollywood romantic comedy: lots of laughs, a few crumbs of truth, but with a black cast. But, your review has changed my mind. At first, I couldn't see it because I couldn't see another film that shows the fragility of "black love"--love between two very vulnerable souls: a black man and a black woman--already ravaged from societal, economical, financial, cultural, professional, historical, familial injustices. That is all in addition to the normal challenges of marriage and long-term relationships. As you know, hurt people hurt people, boo..... I should have known better, since Tyler has been consistently producing work that is always insightful & thought-provoking. As a single, slightly older, black female, I commend you greatly on your path to focus on taking care of yourself and personal growth. It is not something that we do enough of, as a people, and society does not encourage. The relationship that you cultivate with God (that is why He is called our "personal" Savior) will nurture you, and will guide you in the holy, sacred, marriage union that HE will grant you someday, in His timing. You will know how to give and receive love, because you KNOW God personally, who IS Love, and because you love Him, FIRST. You know that I am heavily engaged in this challenging, lonely, yet worthy venture, myself. You may be on your own, but you are never alone! God bless you, sis, and thank you Tyler for sharing your gift with the world.
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